I was at a winery yesterday with some friends, and commented how surprised I was the winery no longer offered accomodation, as I knew it had a large 9–10 person house available that was in good condition.
When I say “commented”, I really mean “stated with extreme prejudice from a position of knowing the Truth”.
My friends, who live in the area, immediately commented how difficult it was to get employees to work so far out, and that could be a good reason why the accomodation lies empty.
Thankfully I observed the thoughts going through my brain and caught them before opening my mouth. Their reasoning was perfectly sound and I did not have any argument for it. I could feel myself trying to find one simultaneously feeling myself diminished. Had we been in Conversation for speculation or possible action I may have had some other ideas—but I wasn’t. I was stating a fact as I saw it and couldn’t ground. It wasn’t something worth arguing about, but on another day I could have chosen a different path. Too often I do and I want to remember yesterday’s experience as a positive moment of managing to listen when I needed to.