2 conversations about this topic.
Let’s say I’m measuring my behaviour, success, etc. and I fail to meet the ideals of the standard I’m comparing to. I will either: Feel inadequate because I am not good enough. Put unrealistic pressure on myself to close the gap. There is a third choice. Almost always overlooked. Adjust the standard to something that’s realistic for me at this point in time.
I regularly see posts in the Life of Dad Facebook group that inadvertently suggest you’re not a real dad unless you are always putting your family ahead of your own needs, and making large sacrifices for your family. I know they are trying to be supportive. I believe these kind of posts set unrealistic and unhealthy expectations.